by Martina Paul
Cotswolds Wedding Planner
The end result of having a dream wedding means something different to everyone. You might look at the expensive decor in lavish hotels and think, this is a dream, but I can’t afford it. And you feel down. No need because the real question here is: is it really you? Over the top white and gold posh ballroom? Would you feel comfortable in that? Is that really what you both want?
For me, the perfect wedding day goes beyond the décor, beyond the looks, and beyond spending silly money. It is not about spending little money or lots of money, it is about spending the right money on your priorities.
Planning Your dream wedding really starts with you two as a couple. You can find the style that suits you every day around you. It is the clothes you wear on a date night, it is restaurants you enjoy eating in, it is the cocktail choice, it is the style of holidays you go on. It is how you decorated your home.
If you put a pen to paper and add adjectives to each one above your wedding theme will emerge.
Mine would go something like this:
Date night dress: rich colour and slick, Restaurant: classy, Cocktail: margarita, Holidays: city breaks in Autumn
My wedding theme would then be simply classic with rich colour, food full of flavour, and of course: tequila?
You can both play around with it, try it, it’s fun!
The base of your dream wedding is really you two. And when you figure out what you want from your wedding, only then start thinking about your families and friends. Because they might have their opinions on what you should and shouldn’t do. But remember this, it is about you two becoming one family in a wonderful ceremony and celebration where you can be honest and comfortable.
And if those unsupportive opinions come, you can look back at what you have set to do at the beginning and just say no thank you. This is our wedding.
Now you have the theme and you know what you are looking for, is it time for the wedding planning checklist? I think it is! When you list each supplier add those adjectives you have written down at the beginning. Those will work well when giving your brief to your photographer, florist, designer, venue dresser, catering team, bar team, cake maker, or just your wedding planner.
We can now visit the budget. Whatever your budget you can have the wedding you really want. There is always a way. Trust me. Your Luxurious white wedding can be created in a smartly dressed Victorian town hall, your City Chic can be in a modern hotel room or in that restaurant around the corner. Perhaps you don’t need to invite all 150 cousins and perhaps your wedding is not in the UK at all!?
Weddings across the world come at various budgets. And if you worry about all your guests coming? Yes, less family and friends will perhaps attend, but those who will, will have the time of their lives and you will have memories from a weekend spent together rather than just 12 hours. It is a different kind of adventure altogether and you might just find that you can get exactly what you want within a smaller budget. Plus you are getting a Honeymoon too.
Now you have the budget you can start looking for your wedding venue. Because you know what you are looking for.
As you can see, the wedding venue is not on top of your list. You are and should always remain on top of your wedding planning list. And I am saying this again because you might get distracted from this fact during the wedding planning as it becomes gradually hectic.
So please remember it, keep having date nights, keep having wedding talk free days, keep being together, keep being just a couple.
And this is it, the solid base towards your Dream wedding is the two of you!
I am confident you will have a fantastic day! If you want to ask anything at all – get in touch!